Change, Purpose, Personal Power
Change is inevitable. It's gonna come no matter how much we resist it. If you don't believe me look in the mirror. Yes, people tell you that you haven't changed a bit. But you have in some way no matter how small, you've changed. People, times and circumstances around us change. Our minds change, our hearts change. We fall in and out of love. SOmetimes it's hard and sometimes it's relatively easy.
I am struck by many who hold on desperately to things, ideas, people, etc. I am struck by victimology. I am struck by the boot strappers...you know those who have pulled themselves and their lives together without any help or assistance from others. Where is the balance in life? Where is the purpose in our lives? Where are we moving to? What are our goals? I cringe when I hear, read and see people in emotionally and physically harmfull situations. I cringe when I hear someone say I can't. It really gets under my skin like finger nails scraping a chalkboard. It took every once of my being not to respond to words written by a few where they expressed how they felt that they didn't deserve help because they/their story of victim-hood wasn't as tragic as anothers.
Their words reminded me of my purpose and what I've been doing and studying for the past 20 years. But there is only so much we or anyone can do for another. Healing and wholeness are the responsibility of the individual who seeks it. There are times when we must go at it alone. There is no one there to do the actual work of healing and wholeness for us. But there are people, groups and organizations there to help. You have to be ready for the help. You have to be, as Fannie Lou Hammer and so many of our fore-mothers and fathers say, "Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired." Until we reach that point, until our pain and victimology no longer serves us, positively or negatively...Until we re-write our own stories, NOTHING WILL CHANGE FOR THE BETTER.
We have to believe in something before we can make our lives better. I don't care what you believe in if it inspires and transforms your inner being and empowers you to create and attract the changes you want to see in your life.
If you don't believe you deserve better, speak it until you believe it. Affirm it! Say aloud "I am worthy of all the good that comes my way." Negative things have happened to all of us. We have internalized so much negativity and believe that we are powerless. If you can't see it in the material world, visualize it in your mind. Be determined to be whole.
If you feel unloved, look in the mirror and tell yourself I love U. And then hug yourself. Write letters of comfort to the child in you that was abused. Let him or her know that you are there to protect them now. Play with him or her. Give your inner child all the love he or she needs. Surround yourself with people who support your goal to be whole and healthy. Stay away from "negaholics"- those addicted to their own negativity.
No one has to suffer. You have to know that it is your responsibility to take your healing in your own hands. It does not mean that you don't ask for help. Although some have, you don't have to do it alone.
Talk to someone. Journal. Pray. Be faithfull and know that a change can and will come. Will it be the change you want? Only you can decide. Please remember how blessed your are to be here. Many are not with us any more. Some have lived long lives. Some lives cut short too early for senseless reasons.
You have purpose. Please remember that.
I am struck by many who hold on desperately to things, ideas, people, etc. I am struck by victimology. I am struck by the boot strappers...you know those who have pulled themselves and their lives together without any help or assistance from others. Where is the balance in life? Where is the purpose in our lives? Where are we moving to? What are our goals? I cringe when I hear, read and see people in emotionally and physically harmfull situations. I cringe when I hear someone say I can't. It really gets under my skin like finger nails scraping a chalkboard. It took every once of my being not to respond to words written by a few where they expressed how they felt that they didn't deserve help because they/their story of victim-hood wasn't as tragic as anothers.
Their words reminded me of my purpose and what I've been doing and studying for the past 20 years. But there is only so much we or anyone can do for another. Healing and wholeness are the responsibility of the individual who seeks it. There are times when we must go at it alone. There is no one there to do the actual work of healing and wholeness for us. But there are people, groups and organizations there to help. You have to be ready for the help. You have to be, as Fannie Lou Hammer and so many of our fore-mothers and fathers say, "Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired." Until we reach that point, until our pain and victimology no longer serves us, positively or negatively...Until we re-write our own stories, NOTHING WILL CHANGE FOR THE BETTER.
We have to believe in something before we can make our lives better. I don't care what you believe in if it inspires and transforms your inner being and empowers you to create and attract the changes you want to see in your life.
If you don't believe you deserve better, speak it until you believe it. Affirm it! Say aloud "I am worthy of all the good that comes my way." Negative things have happened to all of us. We have internalized so much negativity and believe that we are powerless. If you can't see it in the material world, visualize it in your mind. Be determined to be whole.
If you feel unloved, look in the mirror and tell yourself I love U. And then hug yourself. Write letters of comfort to the child in you that was abused. Let him or her know that you are there to protect them now. Play with him or her. Give your inner child all the love he or she needs. Surround yourself with people who support your goal to be whole and healthy. Stay away from "negaholics"- those addicted to their own negativity.
No one has to suffer. You have to know that it is your responsibility to take your healing in your own hands. It does not mean that you don't ask for help. Although some have, you don't have to do it alone.
Talk to someone. Journal. Pray. Be faithfull and know that a change can and will come. Will it be the change you want? Only you can decide. Please remember how blessed your are to be here. Many are not with us any more. Some have lived long lives. Some lives cut short too early for senseless reasons.
You have purpose. Please remember that.
posted by Blackgold at 7:56 PM
2 Comments:
this is such a powerful piece of reality that da fam has been talking about it on the yahoo board today. thank you so much for sharing your journey with the many people who are also trying to make sense of their existance and their journeys of self discovery.
da fam misses you. i miss you and i overstand why you decided to leave and it's fine by me. your spirit is so strong that it is still felt even when you are not blogging or not on the fam boards. you must take control and allow the negative energy to stop in it's tracks and i admire that.
just know that you are loved and missed by many.
-rocky-
Thank U Rocky. I love and miss everyone too. Sometimes we have to incubate ourselves in the environment/reality that allows us to grow to our fullest potential.
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