Question

Why do we often deny that feelings exist in an effort to not be disappointed? Does our lack of acknowledgement make the feeling/need/want/desire disappear? I don't think so. We expect disappointment so often that we go through great lengths to not be in a position of needing something from another. It's hard to manage needs. It's hard to negotiate what we want and feel we need with what another is able and willing to give. Ultimately we are responsible for our own happiness and joy. But no man or wo(man) is an island. We need others to know ourselves and to be FULLy actualized. Disappointment comes when our expectations aren't met. I don't know if it is possible to live without expectation, although we often try. But we must keep our expectations in check. We make agreements with ourselves and others everyday. Most times these agreements go undiscussed. They aren't talked about or mentioned. It's okay to have the conversations with others. To share what our needs are, what our expectations are. In fact it's best to get them checked out instead of assuming that the person is or isn't capable of being there for us a certain way. I guess it all boils down to risking rejecting. I once read that the only person who can reject you is you. I reject me first in thought. Everything is choice. Although we don't always like our options, choice is our first and only freedom. Free will is our gift from the creator. Let's not choose to reject and deny vital parts of ourselves because we are afraid.

People come to us for a reason. They may be the answer to your prayer from long ago. We connect and reconnect with others all the time. That familiarity you have with that person may be the clue to let you know there is something I am supposed to be getting from this person. We have unfinished business maybe from another space and time. We are, they are here in your space and sphere. Share yourself with them. Take a risk with yourself and them. No one is talking marriage...just saying be open to shedding layers of yourself to strengthen bonds and connections. As we share we encourage others to share. If we hold our cards tight, we send the message that we aren't available. We all want deeper connections. We all want to bask in the light and energy of love. Yes, I feel loved by my female as well as male friends. Our connections don't have to be sexualized. We often make the mistake of thinking that love should be reserved for committed, monogamous relationships with another.

We can love our friends and it not be sexual. That person can inspire us to be more FULLy human, more in touch with spirit...more alive without sex. Sexual union has the potential to be divine...so, it is not out of the ordinary to develop feelings for one who assists, in one way or another, us in becoming more alive...feeling beings again.

Take the risk. Risk disappointment, risk rejection...LIVE. Share with others...take risks. I will even if U won't...we gotta start somewhere.

Happy Saturday! Smile...it changes the vibrations around you.